How To Find A Great Man! James Marriott

As a writer myself, I must give credit where credit is due. The general theme of this article and many of the ideas came from an article of a similar name in an issue of Ebony Magazine. I felt it was a great piece and I have added my thoughts to it.

I was waiting for my girlfriend to get ready one day so I picked up one of her parents issues of Ebony Magazine. There is a regularly featured column in it titled "Sister to Sister" This particular month's column was how to find a good man.

Always wanting to know what the other side (women) is thinking I read it. I admit, I have read my share of articles in Vogue, MS, Cosmo and the others (it's hard not to when you grow up with all sisters, then move in with two girls). I have never seen an article from the "other" side that I agreed with so strongly.

The article was quite long, but at the end there were the key things to look for in a man. I can’t remember them all, but here is what I do.

• Look for a man that loves his mother and treats her with respect.
• Look for a man that is responsible, does he own up to his mistakes?


And here is the key I believe:
 

• Look for a man that has many friends that are women. While women seem to date jerks, they will not have them as friends!

Life & Love, Live It Right. Spike

I have been thinking lately about life, love and living it right the first time around. Too many times people, myself included look back on things and wish they did things different in the past, usually they wish they did the "right" thing.

What got me started on this? Several things, but mainly a few country songs. They were very sad love songs (love gone wrong songs) and in them the theme was: "If I had another chance, I would treat you right, and be the best person I could be"

As you all know I have after all of these years finally found the love of my life, Yvonne, and I am finally so happy. She is the best thing to ever happen to me and the thought of ever losing her pains me greatly.

One day, while I was driving I listened closely to some of these sad songs, and thought to myself "If only these fools treated their loved ones right in the first place, they would not have to beg for forgiveness and a second chance!"

Even though I felt I was doing the "right" things before, I decided then and there that I would make an even stronger and conscious effort to live my life, in all aspects better and right.

Each day I try to show in some way how much I love Yvonne, and how special she is to me. I hope that I never have to ask for a second chance.
 
 

Yvonne's parents, James & Patricia Smith just celebrated their 31^st Anniversary this past month. Yvonne and I had the pleasure of joining them for dinner at a Cajun restaurant in Jack London Square and for dancing afterwards. I am truly inspired by this milestone.

Mr. & Mrs. Smith